A dear birth mother friend of mine overheard some people in a restaurant, belittling and degrading birth mothers and she had the guts to go to the table and respond. This is what she said...
"excuse my interruption, but i couldnt help but overhear your adoption journey story. First, my heart hopes you have a family when the moment is right. Second, as a birth mom I couldnt help but be offended by your portrayal of birthmoms in general. The thought that we work any system is assenine and false. Although there are some bad stories, please know this is not a class we take in "becoming birth moms 101" (enter squirms and head lowering)
second, the fact that some mothers change their minds is very true and they have every right to do so. Imagine a person holding your child in front of you and asking you to tell them goodbye. A signature forever changes their future. It is the hardest thing I have ever done and for anyone who hasnt walked a day in my shoes to judge me without knowing me or my fellow birthmoms is just wrong.
Im sorry that you are uneducated but I am more sorry that you would speak of a class of women that are the most amazing humans on this planet as if you knew them on a personal level. I hope that the day you hold your child and grandchild in your arms, the child that one of us placed in your arms, you remember this conversation.
The lady was in tears and said nothing. The mother apologized and said she was truly sorry. I smiled and thanked them for not interrupting my tangent. Then, i walked back to my table and had a panic attack and finished my alcoholic beverage. [My husband] was mad until the waiter told us that they paid for our dinner. Four more educated!"
BIRTHMOTHER OF THE YEAR IN MY BOOK!!!!!!
